What is it like to be an au pair? // Au Pair Journals

I’ve been living and working in England as an au pair for the past two years and I can describe what it’s like to be an au pair in only two words: rewarding and exhausting.

(Probably the same words used to describe being a parent.)


As an au pair, you look after kids. You help raise them. And it is extremely rewarding to see them grow up and implement the things you taught them into their own lives. It’s pretty much like being a parent. Only without having to give birth.


Childcare is exhausting. And it’s actually a lot worse when the kids you look after, aren’t your own. Because that means you’re making a very conscious choice to spend time with them. Sure, you get paid and get to live in a different country for your efforts, but that doesn’t take away the fact that kids are very exhausting. Spending an entire day with them, feeding them and keeping them entertained, can be very draining. Both mentally and physically.

So, what is it really like to be an au pair?

If you do it right: life-changing.

You will learn so much, grow as a person, meet a lot of different people and become a part of a second family. You get to play a part in the education of children and teach them what it’s like to live in this beautiful word. You’ll help them grow into their own and share things you will never share with anyone else because it’s such a unique situation.

Even though it is exhausting, it’s very much worth it.



  1. Mommy Rockin' In Style
    3 April 2020 / 12:06 pm

    I agree, raising kids is not easy and takes a tons of patience. Take it from a mom of 2 boys lols.

  2. 2 April 2020 / 3:18 pm

    Au pair is a new term for me. Thank you for sharing your experience.

  3. 1 April 2020 / 5:01 pm

    I’ve been a nanny for so many years but never an au pair. I would like to do it some day abroad and experience the au pair life.

  4. Renata Feyen
    1 April 2020 / 4:47 pm

    It is true that it is easier with your own kids because you know them better πŸ™‚

  5. Daniel Sierra
    1 April 2020 / 2:55 pm

    It seems like soemething difficult to do. I had a friend that worked as an au pair for some time and she always tells me how much she learned and how much she enjoy it. Now she has her own children and I guess it helped her be prepared to be a mom

  6. Joanna
    1 April 2020 / 11:03 am

    It sounds like you are enjoying being an au pair a lot. You must have a lot of patience to look after children as a job. πŸ™‚

  7. 1 April 2020 / 10:01 am

    There is nothig like working with kids and watching them grow. Something so very beautiful about it all. I can see why you would love it.

  8. 31 March 2020 / 6:50 pm

    Wonderful insights. As a writer I think I’ll add a character like this to one of my stories one day!

    • maartjevansandwijk
      31 March 2020 / 7:00 pm

      That’s awesome! What kind of stories do you write? πŸ™‚

  9. Jannie Berendsen
    31 March 2020 / 5:56 pm

    heb weer genoten van je stukje Maartje πŸ˜‰

  10. jonmaldia
    31 March 2020 / 5:20 pm

    Thanks for the insight. It’s always good to know different perspectives and experiences.

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