For anyone that needs to hear it.
You’re not responsible for living up to the way other people see you
It can be nerve-wracking if someone has this image of you in their mind that you feel like you have to live up to. But that’s not your job. The more they get to know you, the more they’ll realise that you are you. And they will accept that and love you for it. (If they don’t, you don’t need them in your life!)
You’re not responsible for anyone else’s happiness
You can’t make everyone happy and you are definitely not responsible for doing so. If someone relies on you to keep them happy, that can be extremely mentally draining. At some point, you are going to have to let them go. Continuing to be their crutch will be worse in the long term, for both of you. Let go so they can learn how to make themselves happy.
You’re not responsible for any unintentional effect your choices have on those around you
If you make a choice, you usually do because it’s the best choice for you. There’s a reason you made that choice. If it has negative consequences to others, but not to you, and you were unaware of those consequences when you made the choice, it’s not your fault. You shouldn’t feel guilty about something you didn’t know would happen. Also, stop wishing you could go back and make a different choice!
You’re not responsible for someone else’s problems
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to help people whenever you can. But if you keep coming up with different solutions, and the other person keeps shooting them down, it’s time to let it go and let them solve their problems on their own.