When people try to bring you down

I don’t like conflict, in general, but sometimes it’s impossible to avoid. Sometimes, you run into someone that just really doesn’t like you. Or you make a mistake that they can’t seem to forgive, no matter how often you’ve apologised.

When that happens, you have to remember that it’s their own stuff that’s making them lash out at you. You’ve done everything you can to make things work. You’ve explained, you’ve apologised, and yet they still make you feel terrible.

1. Don’t react immediately

If you react straight away, you’re giving them what they want: a response. Plus, you’re getting angry, and are not thinking straight. I usually open up a Word-document and write out everything that I would like to say to them. That way, I still get to say it, but I’m not giving them the reaction they want.

2. Don’t retaliate

No matter how good it might make you feel in that moment, don’t retaliate by making them feel bad. This is, again, giving that other person what they want. Retaliate in the Word-document from step 1 all you want, but don’t give them a reaction.

3. Ignore them

If they’re not getting a reaction out of you, they’ll leave you alone. Usually. And you’re not wasting your time and energy on someone that’s just clearly not worth it.

4. Let go

Sometimes, if they still continue to make you feel bad, it’s time to let go of those people. There’s no reason to keep them in your life. (Unless you enjoy feeling miserable.) You don’t have to feel like you’re running away from your problems if you’ve done all you can to try to mend the relationship.

Fill up your life with things that make you feel happy and stop hanging out with people that suck the life out of you.



  1. Sadia Munir
    9 October 2019 / 7:45 am

    Don’t react. That’s the best thing to do.

  2. 5 October 2019 / 2:14 am

    If people try to bring you down, you’d only feel hurt if you allow them. What you focus on exapands, if you focus on them then you’re allowing them.

  3. Joanna
    3 October 2019 / 2:15 pm

    It is hard not to react immediately when something like this happens, but it is the wise things to do. By not reacting straight away and by giving yourself time to think, you avoid getting upset.

  4. Olya Amanova
    3 October 2019 / 7:37 am

    It is a level of personal maturity when you come to understand that whatever others think doesn’t have any value and importance as it cannot determine the direction of your life.

  5. Kiwi
    3 October 2019 / 6:55 am

    All about releasing toxic people. I dont care if its family let them go if you have to.

    3 October 2019 / 6:45 am

    it’s better to just control your reaction and how you handle what people say its easier that way

  7. 3 October 2019 / 4:59 am

    I’ve learned in life that there is always going to be someone that doesn’t like you no matter what. The best thing you can do is move on and love + appreciate the ones that like you for you.

  8. 3 October 2019 / 2:54 am

    I think don’t retaliate is the best one! It can be so easy to stoop down to a tormentors level.. but walking away and not saying anything is a much better way to go!

    • 4 October 2019 / 3:07 am

      these are nice tips. ignoring them and letting go work best because you will only hurt yourself if you keep on insisting yourself to them .

  9. 3 October 2019 / 2:06 am

    There are battles that we can choose to ignore and fight. When they are not worth it, then they are not worth it.

  10. 1 October 2019 / 7:12 pm

    You cannot control what other people say or do, but you can – with practice – control how you react to it.

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