I don’t like conflict, in general, but sometimes it’s impossible to avoid. Sometimes, you run into someone that just really doesn’t like you. Or you make a mistake that they can’t seem to forgive, no matter how often you’ve apologised.
When that happens, you have to remember that it’s their own stuff that’s making them lash out at you. You’ve done everything you can to make things work. You’ve explained, you’ve apologised, and yet they still make you feel terrible.
1. Don’t react immediately
If you react straight away, you’re giving them what they want: a response. Plus, you’re getting angry, and are not thinking straight. I usually open up a Word-document and write out everything that I would like to say to them. That way, I still get to say it, but I’m not giving them the reaction they want.
2. Don’t retaliate
No matter how good it might make you feel in that moment, don’t retaliate by making them feel bad. This is, again, giving that other person what they want. Retaliate in the Word-document from step 1 all you want, but don’t give them a reaction.
3. Ignore them
If they’re not getting a reaction out of you, they’ll leave you alone. Usually. And you’re not wasting your time and energy on someone that’s just clearly not worth it.
4. Let go
Sometimes, if they still continue to make you feel bad, it’s time to let go of those people. There’s no reason to keep them in your life. (Unless you enjoy feeling miserable.) You don’t have to feel like you’re running away from your problems if you’ve done all you can to try to mend the relationship.
Fill up your life with things that make you feel happy and stop hanging out with people that suck the life out of you.