Saying goodbye to your host kids

You know for months it is coming, but that doesn’t make it any easier. Every au pair knows it and has to go through it – at some point, you have to say goodbye to your host kids.

About four weeks ago, I moved out of my host family’s house and said goodbye to the kids I’d been looking after for two years. And it was hard. No matter how much I didn’t like kids before I moved in with them, they became such a huge and important part of my life that now I almost can’t imagine what life was like before them.

I had given both of my kids a letter the weekend before, thinking it would be easier for them to read those while I was still in the house. The week leading up to my leaving was very strange. My room was already empty – I’d moved all of my stuff into my new house. Every moment I spent with the kids, I tried to soak up, since it was the last time I would be spending that much time with them.

And then Friday morning came. My last morning. All I had to do, was drop them off at school. And then I’d be done. The kids were actually waiting for me to wake them up and we had breakfast in the garden. Then, they went upstairs, like they always did, and I hung out in my room. Like usual.

Thankfully, the kids didn’t cry when I dropped them off at school. Which made it so much easier for me to not cry and leave them there. I know they were sad to see me go – and that made it hard enough.

Some tips for when you have to say goodbye to your host kids as an au pair:

  • Try to not make it a big deal that you’re leaving. It’s already hard for everyone involved.
  • During those last few days, enjoy every single moment you get to spend with the kids. Soak it all up.
  • Write them a letter or give them a personal gift so that they can remember you.
  • Make sure you stay in contact with them after you’ve left – you were a huge part of their lives. Don’t just disappear.

I know this is a very specific post (and slightly sad – I’m in a bit of a mood, guys) and that not everyone is going to go through this, but for any au pairs out there that have been following my blog, I hope that these tips are helpful for some of you!



  1. mudpiefridays
    8 August 2019 / 4:18 pm

    Awww, that was really sad. Saying goodbye was never an easy thing but we have to face the fact that you should have to leave.

  2. Emily Fata
    8 August 2019 / 4:46 am

    These are all such great tips! I imagine how hard it can be leaving your host children, especially after you’ve created so many wonderful memories with them.

  3. 8 August 2019 / 1:59 am

    It must be an emotional experience to switch taking care of kids to another kid. I’ve given my heart to my kids but still, I love little ones as soon as I see them

  4. kushigalu
    7 August 2019 / 7:44 pm

    Good byes are the worst and I know it by experience. It takes few days to be back but with current technology its quiet easy too to stay in touch than it was earlier.

  5. 7 August 2019 / 8:46 am

    Kids are amazing, they tend to grow on you and before you know it you are so attached to them. Goodbyes are the worst, but thanks to technology now it is easier to stay in touch.

  6. 7 August 2019 / 2:06 am

    Although I have never been an Au Pair, I can imagine it would be emotional and difficult saying goodbye to kids that have been a huge part of your life for years. I know that I would be a basket of tears! Hopefully you are able to stay in one another’s lives in one way or another.

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