What Your Au Pair Shouldn’t Be Doing

I’ve been an au pair in Aldershot for quite a while now. And I have seen many girls come and go. Some of them were great au pairs and did their best to keep their host kids happy. But there were also a few crazy ones that I’ve heard about. Not just in Aldershot, but in London as well. After my post talking about what host families shouldn’t be doing, I figured I’d do a similar one for au pairs.

Because, as an au pair, there are some things that you just shouldn’t do. Losing the child you’re looking after is one of those things. Or using cocaine while watching the kids. And that is only the beginning of some of the stuff some au pairs get up to.

One au pair went back to her own country for the weekend and just never returned. She actually sent a text to our WhatsApp group, asking us if we could go and pick up all her stuff from the host family’s house and store the luggage until she was ready to come and pick it up.

Last year, there was an au pair who found out that she was pregnant a few weeks after she got here. Now, this can happen. But there are better ways to deal with that than to just not tell anyone and going home the next day – leaving your host family without childcare.

Now, I need you to know that not all au pairs are like that. Most of us are actually really responsible. These are just some very extreme cases. Sometimes you just need to read about things going wrong to help you appreciate your own situation more.



  1. 27 December 2018 / 3:27 pm

    I think the concept if done right is a great idea, but as you mentioned there is always bad eggs in the lot.

  2. 27 December 2018 / 6:57 am

    Yes I have heard AU pair comes with a lot of challenges like adjusting to the change in environment, language barrier, feeling homesick and more…

  3. 25 December 2018 / 4:16 am

    Some examples are pretty extreme and scary! Leaving host family without childcare is one thing (irresponsible and cruel, yes) but taking drugs while working is over the board! It is sad how some people can ruin what over people are building taking a lot of time and effort to build trust

  4. Anne Murphy
    25 December 2018 / 2:53 am

    Well, those are pretty dramatic examples! But yes, much of it comes down to basic courtesy, as well as responsibility. I’ve worked in childcare, and know how much the parents depended on me!

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