There are au pairs in Aldershot that don’t actually talk to their host parents. They talk, but not about anything important. They discuss the kids, how they have been acting and what they have to do for school. And yes, that’s important. But you live in their house. You should also talk to them about other things.
A couple of months ago, I had a couple of friends over. After a few drinks, they asked my host dad things they didn’t feel like they could talk about with their host parents. They just didn’t feel comfortable asking them about these things. I’m glad they at least have someone they can ask these things, but they should really discuss this with the people it concerns.
Here are some of the things they asked (with answers!).
How would you feel if your au pair came home with a boy/girl
You are allowed to date. Okay, your host parents might not agree if you have a different boy over at the house every night, but a steady boyfriend should be allowed to at least come and visit you.
Do you think it’s okay for au pairs to smoke?
If you smoke, just tell the host parents. They won’t mind if they are smokers, as well. If they are against smoking, the worst they can do is make you go outside when you want a cigarette (which you should be doing anyway. Don’t smoke near the kids, people).
I don’t always feel comfortable in my house but I don’t want to tell the parents that…
If there is something you’re uncomfortable with, tell your host-parents. You live in their house and look after their kids. They want to keep you happy. One of my friends had to deal with a bathroom that didn’t have a lock. She walked in on her host mum a few times, and members of the family walked in on her while she was in the bathroom as well. She hated it and went out as much as possible just to avoid being there. This could have easily been solved by talking to them and asking them to put a lock on the door.
Hope this was helpful! Have you ever been with a host family and had questions you didn’t know how to ask them? Comment them down below, and I will answer them with my host parents!