You’ve been with your host family for a few weeks, and it’s been a nightmare. The kids don’t listen to you; the parents aren’t really helping by telling them to behave, and on top of that, you’re missing home. After talking to your friends and family, you have decided that things just aren’t working out and that you want to leave. It doesn’t matter if you’re going back to your home country or giving it another try with a different family: you first have to talk to your current host family.
So what do you tell the host family?
- If you see your host parents in the morning, tell them that you’d like to talk to them when the kids are in bed. This way, you will be able to have a normal conversation without getting interrupted.
- Tell them, calmly, that you don’t think things are working out and that you don’t want to be their au pair anymore. Calmly explain why.
- Don’t insult the kids or complain about the things that have lead to you making this decision. The host parents might not have realised you felt this way and you’re still living in their house.
- Offer to help the family out for a few more weeks until they’ve found a replacement. Set a time limit, though: if you don’t, they won’t have a reason to look for someone else.
The most important thing is that you just stay calm. If the host parents really didn’t realise how bad it’s been for you, they might change things to try and get you to change your mind. If you’re sure you won’t change your mind, make sure they know that (book your tickets home or tell them about this new family that you found).