What challenges do new au pairs face?

I love being an au pair. Even in the beginning, when a lot of au pairs have some issues, I enjoyed every single minute. But, like any job, being au pairs does have its ups and downs. These are some of the challenges new au pairs face after moving to a new country.

  1. Adjusting to a new environment

    When you arrive in your new host family, everything will be new for you. The language, the house, the shops, the people. This can be overwhelming and challenging. But there’s also an upside: once you’ve gotten through that initial stage, you will grow so much more confident. It will make you stronger, and you’ll realise you can do just about anything you set your mind to!

  2. A new language

    If you go to an English-speaking country, I’m going to assume that you already know the language. At least a little bit. But even then it can be hard to understand what your host parents or children are saying. You’ll be forced to get out of your comfort zone, and you are going to have to ask people for help. Just know that it will only take you a few weeks to get through this stage. I’ve been in that situation, and you move past this stage much faster than you first expect. If you don’t understand what people are telling you, you will push yourself more.

  3. Making new friends

    This one can be easy or hard, depending on your personality. But it will benefit you in the long run. Social skills are always useful, and by improving your ability to make contact with new people, you have an advantage that you can use time and again. Read my post on making friends as an au pair for tips on how to meet new people. It’s so much easier than you think! Don’t lock yourself up in your room, because the longer you wait, the harder it gets.

  4. Homesickness

    Before they leave, many au pairs are scared that they will become homesick and miss out on going out with friends and family. The wonderful thing about being away from your loved ones is that it brings you closer to those that are actually meant to be in your life. Contact quickly disappears with the ones that don’t really care (or that you don’t really care about). Moving to a different country will help you learn which friends are actually willing to make an effort.

    As for the homesickness – everyone goes through it. Dealing with homesickness will help you grow as a person. You can try to move past it or you’ll let it affect your time abroad. When it’s getting really hard, remind yourself of all the reasons you wanted to be an au pair. Try to think of that instead of all the things you’re missing (out) on.

  5. Looking after children

    Being an au pair will try your patience on some days – even if you look after the sweetest children possible. But this will also help you grow, and you will learn so much about how you will want to raise your own children (if you want them) or what works and what doesn’t work with kids. Your job as an au pair gives you an incredible insight into another family’s life and how they raise their kids. This usually helps you find out what you want or don’t want for your future children. It also opens your eyes to the responsibilities that parents have and the love that you get back. You will respect your mum and dad so much more for raising you (I know I do) and you might even have flashbacks to your own childhood and suddenly understand why your mum reacted the way she did.

Even though it’s challenging at times, the things you learn during your time as an au pair will stay with you for the rest of your life, and that makes it one of the most rewarding jobs there is!



  1. 27 August 2018 / 3:38 pm

    I have four kids and work full time and have always wondered what it would be like to hire au pair, but have instead hiring nannies that come and go. Loved this post, and I will definitely consider that if I decide to hire an au pair in the future. Very detailed and love how you share all the ups and downs.

  2. 25 August 2018 / 5:22 am

    Oh wow, I really enjoyed this post! I do have one question though, I’m still unsure what “au pairs” means? Other than that, I thought your post was well written and easy to understand! Thanks.


    • maartjevansandwijk
      27 August 2018 / 5:28 pm

      Thanks! I just wrote a post on what au pairs are – going live on 4 September 😉

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