When you first become an au pair, you get to start over. You only take a couple of the things you own and leave your friends and family behind. You’re going on an adventure and on your way, you will meet a lot of new people, and some of those people will turn into good friends. Which is important. You’re going to need those friends to talk to when your host kids start to drive you slightly crazy.
There are loads of ways to find friends that are in the same situation as you. One of the easiest ways is to go onto Facebook and just look for au pair groups in your neighbourhood. If you want to meet people face to face, you can go to a language course, join clubs or fitness centres or go out and do other activities near you. There’s always someone that you can talk to. Don’t be afraid to ask your host family if they know any other families who are currently hosting an au pair.
Making friends is the easy part. If you’re an au pair for a longer period, your friends will leave after a while. And that’s when it gets hard. One of my best friends here in Aldershot is going home this Thursday, and I really hate that I won’t get to see her anymore. But summer is coming along. And while I’m staying in Aldershot for another year, most of my friends are getting ready to go home. I’ve been joking about them staying here so that I don’t have to put in the effort of making new friends in September. But I am really going to miss all of them. I am going to keep in touch with them, but it’s going to be different. I won’t see them as often, and we will be doing completely different things.
So, here are some ways to deal with your friends leaving (after you’ve gone through all that trouble to make them your friends in the first place.
- Create memories while you are still in the same country
- Accept that your friends are moving on with their lives and be happy for them
- Text/call each other regularly with updates on your life or just with funny memes that remind you of them
- Visit each other – they are probably from different countries, so that means you will have a place to stay for free (Spain, here I come)!
- Stay busy, go out and make new friends – you need them.